Having low self esteem is like having anemia for the soul. It’s not fatal and not very difficult to fix, but you have to start somewhere.

That somewhere lies within your self. This article will give you some tips you can put in action, and see your inner batteries charged in no time.

Becoming a positive person can be a challenge for you now, but any challenge can be overcome if you set your mind to it- especially a challenge that is IN your mind! Do you find that you often have bad things to say about yourself? Do you cut yourself down, even in small ways, when talking with friends? Do you mentally punish yourself if you make mistakes, however small? Do you pass off credit or praise when recognized at work?

If you agreed with some of these statements, it is probable that you are going through life with low self-esteem. Either due to past experiences or other factors out of your control, now is the time to change this situation and take control of your self-image.

Your self esteem is based on your thinking; low self-esteem comes from negative thinking, high self esteem comes from positive thinking. With our tips, and some practice, you CAN transform your self-image and be proud of yourself.

Make a List Of Things You Like About Yourself.

Yes, write them down. This is important because it keeps you from forgetting when you are having a hard day. It’s okay if you can only think of a few things right now, even 2 constitutes a list. Enlist help if you need it – don’t argue with the suggestions you are given, but only pick the ones you feel you agree with. Make a goal to add one new thing to the list everyday. Never cross anything off your list once you have written it down.

Stop The Verbal Self Put Downs

Yes, simply stop them. When someone gives you a compliment, do you usually down play it or say something negative instead? Do you find yourself responding with “Oh no…” or “But…” or another challenging phrase? Next time you are given a compliment, catch yourself before you respond this way and don’t let the words come out. You don’t have to agree just yet, you’ll work up to that. Try simply saying thank you. Let the compliment be, don’t wash it away with negativity.

Remember the Positive Things People Have Said About You

Yes, people do think good things about you. This is another good one to write down. What are some positive things people have said about you in the past? Even if you don’t necessarily agree with them, put them in this list. You may be surprised at how this can help you start changing – it gives you the option to see yourself as these good things instead of the bad things you have heard.

No More Mental Self Punishment

Yes, you are allowed to be imperfect without punishment. Think of this just like tip #2 and keep it simple. Do you think things like “Oh you are so stupid!” or “You screwed up again!” or “Ugh I look terrible?” Your habit of mentally putting yourself down or punishing yourself may be so strong that you don’t even notice these internal comments anymore. Pay attention, and when you hear yourself saying something negative, stop. Even if it is mid-thought, cut it off, and replace it with a positive phrase: “I’m glad my brain is alert”, “It’s really good I can dance”

Start The Positive Self Talk

Yes, it’s time to build the good stuff. This may be difficult at first, building new habits can be just as challenging as breaking old ones, but you can do it. Start small at first. For example, instead of “Oh you are so stupid” think “I can fix that mistake.” Instead of “Ugh I look terrible” pick one thing about your look you ARE happy with and try it instead, “I love this color of lipstick/eye-shadow/nail polish/shirt/etc.” When someone praises you, in addition to saying “Thank you,” repeat the praise in your head and agree with it. Add it to your list(s). Move forward to creating your own positive self thoughts instead of just replacing negative ones. Look in the mirror and think “Nice hair/eyes/outfit/etc…I’m so proud of you!” Finish a project and tell yourself “Success!”

Widen Your Positivities – Appreciate ALL the Good Things

Yes, thinking about the good things in life will help your self esteem. A positive attitude towards the world at large is great practice and will help you feel better. Is it a beautiful day? Does your coffee smell delicious? Do you work with nice people? Did something make you laugh? Notice these things and appreciate them out loud. The more you use appreciation around your life, internally and with others, the more effect it will have on your mood, and in turn the more positive things you will see. Just as negative thinking can be a spiral, so can the purposeful building up of your self-esteem. It will get easier, but don’t stop practicing! And begin enjoying being you!